Hello Mamas and Mama Fans,
So this rainy day has led me to some deep contemplation about the definition of single motherhood. Who is considered a single mama? Who should receive the "gifts" of this project?
Well, here is what I came up with...
Any mama who feels they carry the bulk of the responsibility of raising and caring for their children. Any mama who feels they are not receiving all of the support they need from their children's fathers or their partner.
Sadly, this will include many mamas who share custody with the father/partner or are even living with the father/partner. And it may even include single fathers, grandmothers, the eldest child, or other caretakers - there are many types of families nowadays. Of course, this project is more geared towards single mamas who are all on their own, but I understand that many mamas with partners are also not receiving the support they need and may at times feel like a single mama. (Although, I want to emphasize the importance of all Mothering the Mother participants sensitivity to the mamas without dadas. Basically, this it is not the place for complaints or discussion about your husband/partner for this can really ostracize single mamas, and this is the number one reason why single mamas feel disconnected from other mother/parenting groups.)
To sum it up, I would love to use the honor system for our free gifts. If you feel as though you are a single mama most of the time then please benefit from these upcoming projects. If you are a mama that feels very supported by the father or your partner then please spread the love and provide support for other mamas by volunteering for Mothering the Mother! By serving other mothers, you are serving yourself. If you look at it in this light, Mothering the Mother is a gift for all mamas.
From my ever expanding, gigantic mama's heart to yours,